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Leaving the Honeymoon

In my last post, I wrote about some reasons romantic sparks flicker out, and how that shift relates to the natural evolution of relationships, as the early crushy, head-over-heels symbiotic stage gives  way to a more mature phase of the relationship.  This week, I’m discussing a related question: How can we navigate the transition (from […]

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What Happened To The Spark?

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Here’s a common relationship problem, and a frequent question I get from relationship therapists: What do you do when the “spark” fades from the relationship?  This is an interesting question, because it is actually several questions disguised as one. Here is my rundown:  Why does the spark fade? Is inevitable? How can we navigate the […]

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Working With Sexual Aversion

Couple fighting

I’m continuing my series responding to the answers my readers sent me in response to the question, “What is your biggest challenge working with sex issues in therapy?” This week, I’m discussing a really challenging one: sexual aversion. Understanding a little about the Dual Control Model of sexual arousal will help you begin to approach […]

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