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What Kind of Partner Do You Aspire To Be?

A couple lying face to face

I have a deeply-held belief that everyone has the capacity for growth and change.  Not only can we change if we challenge ourselves to do so, but also we all have room to grow. The Developmental Model teaches us to ask our clients “what kind of partner do you aspire to be?” Asking people to […]

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Putting Clients At Ease With Sensitive Topics

A lot of my clients come to me specifically to work on sex-related issues. Nonetheless, I find that even those clients are often quite uncomfortable talking about their sex lives. That’s perfectly understandable. Most people were taught not to talk about sex openly–not even with lovers, in some cases, let alone strangers or therapists. Because […]

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Don’t Try to “Win” A Fight With Your Partner

Your partner should be your collaborator, your ally, your co-conspirator. Yet all too often couples end up treating their relationship like a zero-sum game. If you see your partner as a competitor rather than a collaborator, discussions about big topics like where to live, whether to have kids, and what kind of life you want […]

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