Stretching Outside Your Comfort Zone


Recently, a therapist sent me a great question. I’ll paraphrase it a little: Where is the healthy line between setting boundaries sexually and stretching beyond your comfort zone to please your partner?  The key ingredient, always, is willingness. You always have the right to decide what activities you want to engage in. Most people engage […]

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Experiencing a Desire Discrepancy? Here Are Some Resources to Help

self pleasure

If you’re struggling with desire discrepancy in your relationship, I want you to know that you’re not alone. Desire discrepancy is one of the prevalent sources of conflict for partners. In part, that’s just because it’s so common; in fact it is SO common I would call it normal. Everyone is different, and everyone experiences […]

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My Approach to Working with Desire Discrepancy

Couple in therapy

If you’re struggling working with desire discrepancy in your practice, first off, I want you to know that you’re not alone. My #1 request from therapists, by far, is for help treating desire discrepancy. There’s a good reason for that. Desire discrepancy is tough. It’s incredibly complex and multifactorial, involving everything from physiology to spirituality […]

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