Video 2

Welcome Back!

I’m glad you’ve joined me for part 2 of my mini-workshop. In video 1 I focused on why, when, and how to get a strong start talking about sex in therapy. Today I focus on what comes next.

In order to take the lead and guide the conversation with skill, you need an assessment tool that helps you know you asked the right questions, didn’t miss anything important, identified  necessary referrals and urgent issues, and organized the information into a treatment plan. In this video, I’ll present a carefully crafted assessment tool I use with every client. I’m very excited to share it with you.

Supporting materials include a copy of the slides I show in the video, and an infographic cue card you can keep in your office so you don’t have to memorize.  


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10 Reasons Every Therapist Should Talk About Sex in Therapy… and How to Get Started


If you missed video 1, go ahead and watch it now.

Video 2

With the material in these two videos you are WELL on your way to building comfort, competence, and confidence working with sex issues. I applaud your willingness to try new things, and I hope you enjoy the adventure as you move into this material. Remember: comfort and confidence come with practice!

Please leave a comment below and tell me your thoughts about this material. Can you actually use this assessment tool with your own clients? Why or why not? Please feel free to ask questions; I want to help you go from watching to doing.

Here’s to your success,

P.S. If you like my teaching style and think you might want to continue learning my approach to working with sex issues in therapy, check out my full online course, “Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy“. 

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11 thoughts on “Video 2

  1. Thank you for these two videos/resources and your generosity in sharing your expertise. I am quite comfortable in discussing sexual issues with my clients and will definitely incorporate your info into my existing process. Much appreciated.

  2. Hello. I have really enjoyed both videos and all the information given. I am not a therapist, but am very interested in learning around this subject. You have made it feel very accessible. Thank you.

  3. this is such a great tool, thank you for the materials. I am comfortable talking about sex with my couples but having a script and a process is so helpful rather than just randomly roaming around in the topic. when and how can I sign up for the full course?

  4. Wow Martha!
    Your Will Lilly tool is so well organized in scope & priority!
    I was surprised that there was a part of it concerned with the pelvic floor, as I myself had a surgical “pelvic floor” procedure done after baby #2. I carried my babies deep inside, so they were literally shoving my internal organs around—yes, even to the point of my surgeon tying my bladder back up to the pelvis!!! Crazy, eh? Well, probably not to you. ;)) Thanks again for sharing this profoundly important subject & your encouragement to go for it! The “structural physiology” issues are indeed important for a medical doctor to help sort out. I also had serious UTI issues to deal with before my surgery. Now, I understand more profoundly how really great my OB/GYN doc was. She really set me up to recover from childbirth in more ways than one!

  5. This looks like a great tool and I’m looking forward to using it. I’m hoping in the full course you will address sex with sexual abuse survivors and sex between elderly couples.

    Thanks so much!

  6. Thank you, Martha, for sharing this easy to recall assessment tool. I’ve incorporated it into my intake process with ease. It’s a valuable resource to evaluate for potentially urgent matters as well as to identify less urgent, yet equally important concerns for couples. I’ve also noticed that the language you’ve carefully crafted to inquire about a couple’s sexual relationship certainly feels respectful. Thanks again for sharing this video and for creating Will Lily!

  7. Thank you Martha for sharing this fantastic tool! I am now assessing client sex issues with ease. It is amazing how much information, I can gather quickly using the Wil Lily. I have found too that I can educate clients a lot using it, as it provides and an opportunity to share valuable information too.

  8. Thanks to the Will Lily assessment tool I feel so much more confident about addressing client sex issues. I know what to ask, and how to sort through the information. You’ve given a way to quickly prioritize potentially urgent issues and know when to make a referral. Thank you so much, Martha!