Free webinar & video series

One partner wants more sex, the other just doesn’t.

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to get traction with significant desire impasses? In cases like these, therapists often miss important therapeutic opportunities early in treatment.

I want to help you get better results with less effort. In this four-part video series, I’ll show you where therapists often go wrong with complex desire discrepancies, and share what to do instead.

Plus, join me for a live webinar, Friday, January 31st. You'll watch me role play exactly how I join with both the lower and higher desire partner — honoring their differences while challenging them both, and helping them chart a new course together. I’ve never presented a training like this before; I want to show you exactly how I get traction so you can too. 

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What you get:

4 bite-sized videos, followed by a 90-minute live webinar

Free 4-part video series:

In a series of bite-sized videos, I'll share four common pitfalls that therapists face when working with desire discrepancy — and what you can do instead.

> Discover THE most common misconception about desire discrepancy (Spoiler: it's something most of us were taught in therapy school, and it's dead wrong)

> Learn an essential early-treatment question that many therapists don't ask — and why it’s so important

> Uncover "Durable Relationship Energy," a powerful reframe for disillusioned couples

> Gain a new way of thinking about porn, masturbation, and less-than-ideal behavior from higher-desire partners

These four videos lay the foundation for the information I’ll present in the free webinar.

Full transcripts are provided for the whole video series.

Free live webinar:

Intimacy Impasses and Desire Dilemmas: Facing the First Session

With this kind of case, your first session is critically important.

Join me January 31st, 1 pm CST, for an in-depth 90-minute webinar:

> Watch me roleplay working with each partner in the first session of a significant desire discrepancy case

> Discover a practical tactic for challenging pressure for sex — without alienating your higher-desire client

> Learn how to avoid a key pitfall (missing or marginalizing asexuality) and find an appropriate treatment direction

> Clarify WHY it's so important for each partner to have a goal — and discover how to identify a useful goal even when there’s a significant impasse between partners

> Come away with an understanding of the heart of a desire discrepancy case, and feel prepared to create a foundation for effective treatment

Mark your calendar.

January 31, 1pm Central Standard Time


I’d love to see you at the webinar live, and answer your questions. If you're busy that day, don't worry; I'll send out a replay of the webinar to everyone who signs up.

Please note: Signing up is the only way to get free access to the video series, the live webinar, and the webinar replay.

Meet your presenter

My name is Martha Kauppi. As an educator and AASECT-certified sex therapist, I’ve devoted my career to helping therapists, coaches, and other helping professionals build the skills they need to work effectively with sex issues and complicated relationship dynamics.

Recently, I asked thousands of therapists what kinds of cases they struggle with, and desire discrepancy was the top response, by far. I've dug deep, thinking about the underlying reasons therapists struggle with these cases. What I came up with: a process-based reframe to elevate your work, rather than a quick fix that won’t stick. I hope you’ll join me for this free training!

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Can't make the webinar live? Sign up anyways; you'll get the recording the very next day.