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Couple fighting

What Happens When Sex Falls Flat?

Let’s start by imagining a common scenario, one that plays out every day in bedrooms around the world. A couple—let’s call them Laurie and Mark—are having a fun, sexy encounter, and Mark begins to lose his erection. Mark feels embarrassed by his loss of erection. He’s ashamed and feels sure that Laurie is judging him, […]

Desire Discrepancy Lesson #1: Normalize Variation

Last week, I wrote about why desire discrepancy can be such a challenging issue for couples therapists to work with. If you missed last week’s post, you can read it here. If you think about it, it’s not all that surprising that desire discrepancies are common. People vary widely from one another in preferences, desires, […]

Couple fighting

Why Desire Discrepancy Is So Tough

In all my work training therapists to talk about sex issues, there’s one thing I hear over and over: “I’ve tried everything I can to work with this desire discrepancy, but it’s just so complicated and tangled up that I don’t feel like I’m making any progress.” “I feel pretty comfortable talking about sex, but […]

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