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Rediscovering Sex in a Mixed-Desire Partnership

In last week’s post, I wrote about the common advice that partners experiencing a desire discrepancy “just do it,” and the way that can backfire. I argued that willingness (not desire) is the key ingredient for partners seeking to rediscover their sexual connection. However, I also acknowledged that many couples feeling awkward and uncertain when […]

When Self-Pleasure Habits Get In The Way of Partnered Sex

If I could give one piece of sex advice to everyone, it would be this: “Switch it up on a regular basis!” The more ways you can develop for experiencing sexual pleasure, and the more pleasure you can generate, the more likely you are to reach orgasm, whether alone or with a partner. The more […]

Desire Discrepancy Lesson #1: Normalize Variation

Last week, I wrote about why desire discrepancy can be such a challenging issue for couples therapists to work with. If you missed last week’s post, you can read it here. If you think about it, it’s not all that surprising that desire discrepancies are common. People vary widely from one another in preferences, desires, […]

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