Desire Discrepancy Lesson #2: Look for the Blocks

February 5, 2019 marthakauppi

I’m continuing my series on desire discrepancy this week. If you missed last week’s post on normalizing variation, you can find it here. What do you do if you’re seeing a couple with a big desire discrepancy, their marriage is on the rocks, and you recognize that you can’t wave a magic wand and make […]

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Links on Body Positivity

December 14, 2018 marthakauppi

We all imbibe harmful messages from our culture about our bodies. Too short, too tall, too fat, too thin–everyone has felt that they don’t measure up in one way or another, and body hatred has real and harmful consequences for our health and happiness. Body shame can also hurt our relationships. Among other things, it […]

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What Kind of Partner Do You Aspire To Be?

December 5, 2018 marthakauppi

I have a deeply-held belief that everyone has the capacity for growth and change.  Not only can we change if we challenge ourselves to do so, but also we all have room to grow. The Developmental Model teaches us to ask our clients “what kind of partner do you aspire to be?” Asking people to […]

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