Willingness is Enough

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If you move in sex-positive and/or feminist spaces, you may have heard the term “enthusiastic consent.” Enthusiastic consent is the idea that consent requires the presence of a “yes,” not just the absence of a “no.” The enthusiastic consent movement is doing a lot of important work reframing our cultural dialogue around sex and fighting […]

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How (and Why) to Talk About Self-Pleasure in Therapy

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When you talk about sex with your clients, you may find yourself in a situation in which it will be helpful to discuss self-pleasure. And yet most therapists, in my experience, tend to find that raising the topic of self-pleasure particularly uncomfortable and embarrassing. Why is this? And how can we make things easier for […]

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After Will Lily: How to Use What You Learn in the Brief Assessment (Pt 2)

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In my last post, I discussed how Will Lily fits into a treatment plan. I explained how the pieces of Will Lily work together to disentangle the factors underlying a complicated issue, like low desire. Now, I’m going to dive into the specifics of how to follow up on Will Lily. This guide will help […]

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